It’s been a hectic few weeks, probably interesting to reflect on from a project management perspective, but that’s not where my thoughts are today. After the thriller with the paperwork (I nearly lost my “J” thanks to a mix-up in the Irish Department of Foreign Affairs), and whether my father would escape from the clutches of the Irish health system in time: the family has arrived and today at 2pm Nora and I marry in the Theater in Baden-Baden.
All is peaceful this morning, inside and out. I took time to enjoy the sunrise. I can pause, while writing this, and listen to the birds twittering outside the window. I finished my speech about an hour ago, having started 30 minutes earlier. (I guess that says something about my personality Type.)
One question that’s gone through my mind (others have posed it): why marry? The answer lies in the work of St. John of the Cross, as I’ve learned it through the Enneagram. To get to the kernel of something unanswerable, we need to strip away all the wrong answers: Nada! Nada !Nada! — Not that! Not that! Not that!And from my Tai Chi teacher, Fernando Chedel: to find the right movement, try out all the wrong ones first. What’s left, fits. So, it’s not about pregnancy, tax, excuse for a party … I could list all the nada anwsers I’ve found, but I’ll spare you the hundreds.
So, what’s left? Spirituality occurs in relationship, ours is deep, and we want to share that with you. Or as Rocky Balboa put it when asked what he saw in Adrian, his long-time partner (he only marries her in Part 2):
I dunno. She got gaps. I got gaps. Together we fill gaps.
Nora has also written an entry for today (in English), which I’ve promised only to read after the ceremony.
Now it’s time to polish my shoes. I’ll be back online on the 18th of May.